My son moved in with his girlfriend last year. Since then, even though they live just ten minutes away, he hasn’t visited me once. I kept hoping he would call or stop by, but the weeks turned into months, and the silence grew heavier with each passing day.I still sent him money to help out, thinking it might make things easier for him.

But he ignored my calls and texts, leaving me to wonder if he even appreciated the sacrifices I had made for him all these years. Last week, I felt especially lonely, so I called again and again until he finally answered.When he picked up, my heart lifted—until he spoke. He sounded cold and rushed, saying he was too busy to visit and that I shouldn’t keep calling so much.

It felt like a door closing, and I realized that I had been giving and giving without receiving even basic kindness in return. After that call, I took a deep breath and made a decision. Instead of waiting for him to show up, I would focus on myself and my own happiness.

I joined a local book club, started volunteering at the community center, and spent more time with friends who truly value me. Slowly, I began to rebuild my sense of purpose. It still hurts that my son keeps his distance, but I’ve learned something important: love and respect should flow both ways.

Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself—and for others—is to stop chasing people who aren’t ready to give you the care you deserve, and to nurture the relationships that bring light into your life.